4 Ways to Know if She's a Real Friend

In life we all need friends. Friends are the ones that catch us when we've fallen. Without them, life is ten times harder.

Having bad friends, friends who aren't really there for you, can be just as bad, though. If a friend leaves when the going gets tough, then you can be sure he's not a good friend. So here are four ways to know if your friend is the real deal.

*Priority*

Is your friend there when you really need them? Or are they always busy trying to get involved with the 'in' crowd? If a friend prioritizes you and the rest of her friends by popularity, she or he needs to go. A true friend will be there when you most need them. If she's constantly letting you down, and hurting you in the process, it's time to say goodbye.

*Communication*

Yes this is a cliche, but it's one for a reason. If your friend is constantly getting mad and not telling you why - that's a problem. The same applies in reverse. Of course, it's also a problem if your friend is ignoring your efforts to talk to them. If you're constantly telling your friend that somethings wrong and she ignores you it's a sign - a sign that she's not a good friend.

*Tension*

If there's a lot of tension between the two of you, something is very wrong. The same applies for if you're constantly getting into fights. The only way to solve this problem is to talk. Be prepared for the talk to end badly. That's not always a bad thing, though. Talking it out and getting angry will be a relief and may allow you to be friends with them in the future. If they refuse to talk, wave them goodbye. In the end, loosing a bad friend will only prevent further harm - for the both of you.

*Personality*

As people grow older, they change. It's a known fact of life and it's perfectly alright. If you're noticing that all the things you once had in common are gone, or that everything you believe in she now opposes maybe it's time to say goodbye. It's ok to let go of old friends and move on to new ones - as long as it's for the right reasons.

All I'm trying to say is that you deserve good friends, real friends. Sometimes it necessary to let go of old friends for your own sake. Your happiness comes first, and good friends can help you with that.

x x

Remember you are worth it, and you do deserve happiness.

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